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Take a breather…..

Thursday, July 23rd, 2009

Its been a couple of months since my last blog/newsletter, if you have followed my recent set of  newsletters, you will be aware that I have been focussing each month on a useful technique for helping you respond better to something/someone that causes you to become stressed.

For a recap of these, you can go to http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk/blog (or if you are already here, simply see articles lower down the page)

Now, of course, I am not saying that every technique will work for everyone every time, but I do urge you to try each one out and see whether it does work for you in different situations.

This month, I am going to focus on a technique that that is very easy, very effective and costs nothing (until somebody finds a way of installing an oxygen meter between our mouth, nose and lungs, that is!) – You’ve guessed it, its called breathing properly.

Any clients that have been to see me for help with stress, anxiety, drepression, panic, phobias etc. will know that I almost always teach a powerful technique called “7-11 breathing”, which is very effective at “in the moment” management of stress. More about that later….

If you want to skip the facts, and move straight to the “how to do it”  bit, then click here, otherwise, sit back, slow down your breathing and read on.

Firstly, here are some interesting “facts” about breathing (based on some quick web research)

  • The average person only uses around 20% of their lung capacity
  • Breathing correctly is critical for maintaining the level of oxygen (O2) for energy, keeping the correct levels of Acid/Alkaline in the body, and enough Carbon Dioxide (CO2) for bodily functions
  • Healthy people make 93% of their energy aerobically (in presence of O2) but poor breathing can reduce this to 84%
  • 70% of body waste is elimited through breathing
  • A well known clinical study (Framlingham) over 30 years, provided convincing evidence that the most significant factor in peak health and longevity is how well you breathe

referencehttp://breathing.com/articles/clinical-studies.htm#Clinical%20studies%20i

What is “bad” breathing?

Typically this is when you are delivering less air per breath (than normal) into the lungs, especially through shallow (chest) breathing. It seems common sense then that less air per breath requires more breaths per minute to take in the required amount. This in turn causes a cascade of physiological changes that include

  • constricted blood vessels (by not breathing in properly)
  • an imbalance of CO2 and O2 in the blood. CO2 is a vital byproduct of our metabolism and is important in helping to maintain the balance between acid and alkaline in the body
  • an adverse effect on the body’s ability to eliminate toxins (by not breathing out properly)

What happens if there is an imbalance of CO2 and O2?

Too much CO2  and not enough O2 can amongst other things create low feelings feelings and fatigue.

Too much O2 and not enough CO2 can lead to an agitated state, however a restricted supply of oxygen can also contribute to panic attacks, anxiety and sometimes phobic responses.

Conversely, stress, anxiety and emotions can also adversely affect your breathing – your natural fight or flight response increases respiration which is more likely to result in faster chest breathing (as above) and once breathing has led you  into an aroused state, the physiological effects on the body remain until the stressor has gone.

Bad breathing is more likely to be conducted through the mouth (rather than the nose) which means that you could exhale large volumes of air quickly, leading to symptoms of hyper ventilation.

As a demonstration of some of the above points (strictly only for those of you who don’t have problems with panic attacks), just spend 10-20 seconds breathing in really quickly and shallower than you normally would – notice what happens! When I do this, within seconds I feel an immediate rush of adrenaline into my legs  and my hands start to sweat (as my brain starts to activate the fight or flight response).

Telling somebody who is feeling anxious, to breathe in deeply could make them feel worse. A person feeling anxious will already probably have exceeded their optimal CO2 levels, and deep breathing may cause them to breathe faster or hyperventilate (as the body speeds the breathing up to redress to CO2 and O2 balance) . It is more helpful to get them to breathe slowly. (see 7-11 breathing later)

What is “good” breathing?

Think about the opposite of bad breathing and you have pretty much got it. We all know how to breathe, and we all do it automatically (unconsciously) without even thinking about it (apparently over 17000 times per day!). With good breathing, you are aiming to redress and keep the O2 and CO2 levels at an optimum balance. In the beginning, you will need to consciously focus on your breathing to help change the habit.

The key point is to breathe as SLOWLY as possible, with the out breath longer than the in breath using the the diaphragm rather than the chest. Ultimately you want to get from an average of 12 breaths per minute to just 4 breaths per minute.

To help with this, there is a useful technique called 7-11 breathing, and this aims to achieve the above. It goes like this,

  • breathe in for a count of 7, hold for a short while
  • then breathe out for a count of 11
  • It can help to imagine that you have got a balloon (choose a calming colour for it) under your diaphragm and you are using the breathing to fill it and exhale it (count for 7 and out for 11 )

Make sure that when you are breathing in, you are doing deep ‘diaphragmatic breathing’ (your diaphragm moves down and pushes your stomach out as you take in a breath) rather than shallower higher lung breathing. If you find that it’s difficult to lengthen your breaths to a count of 7 or 11, then reduce the count to breathing in for 3 and out to 5, or whatever suits you best, as long as the out-breath is longer than the in-breath. Continue in this way for 5-10 minutes or longer if you have time – and enjoy the calming effect it will have on your mind and body. I would also suggest using your nose unless you find it too uncomfortable.

There is also another way to remember it, called 4-7-8 breathing (breathe in for a count of 4, hold for a count of 7, out for a count of 8)

The technique is effective because out-breaths stimulate what is called the Parasympathetic Nervous System, a natural bodily response that enables you to ‘rest and digest’ as opposed to ‘fight or flight’ (the Sympathetic Nervous System). Slow out-breaths decrease your blood pressure, dilate your pupils and slows your heart rate – lowering emotional arousal in the process.

reference:  Human Givens: A New Approach to Emotional Health and Clear Thinking (Paperback) , by Joe Griffin and Ivan Tyrrell

Don’t give up

Now, its almost certain that when you first try this, it will seem both unnatural and uncomfortable. That is because you will have years of practice of shallow, chest breathing. Lots of us (particularly blokes) are used to sucking our stomachs in to hide our middle age spread (obviously not me), and this means that we have unwittingly forced ourselves into chest breathing.

Finally, you will probably have to remind yourself to breathe in this way quite often in the beginning (before it becomes a habit). You will no doubt be aware of those times if you sit in front of a computer and TV for hours on end, deep in concentration, that you may have even even stopped breathing altogether at certain points! – it is therefore useful to have a reminder in your line of site telling you to “breathe properly”. Over time, like any habit, good breathing will become a natural function for you which you don’t even have to think about.

I have many emails and testimonials from clients telling me how useful 7-11 breathing has been for them with issues such as depression, anxiety, managing a panic attack, managing a phobic response or a fear of something, meeting nerves, exam nerves, driving test nerves, stress, calming down, public speaking, fear of flying, relaxing, dealing with anger, reducing fear in birth and labour and many more. So what are you waiting for, close this web page, start breathing properly and notice immediate and permanent benefits!!

Think about it, why is breathing so integral to most preparation/training routines for athletes, musicians, vocalists, public speakers and actors, and why it is so integral to practices like yoga, meditation and martial arts.

Are you getting enough sleep in the Credit Crunch?

Friday, January 30th, 2009

Welcome to my January 2009 newsletter! I’ll jump straight in today…

IMPORTANT: Do you want to get more sleep? Do want to fall asleep and stay asleep?

If you are too tired to read on, but curious about how I can help then just click here.

In the last 3 months, the number of people clicking on my “insomnia” and “sleep” web pages has gone through the roof. For me, this comes as no surprise considering what is happening in the economy plus taking into account the current theme of my newsletters i.e. “surviving stress in the credit crunch”. Now here’s the thing, it is well known that when stress and anxiety is more prevalent in your daily life, your sleep patterns can be greatly disturbed. Sleep is one of your basic needs as a human being. Without adequate sleep, you can soon descend into walking zombies with increased grumpiness, anxiety, inability to cope with daily routine and in extreme cases … depression. The opposite also applies, not enough sleep might be the biggest contributor to being stressed.

I am currently in the process of finalising my next hypnosis product, which is specifically designed to help you fall asleep and stay asleep. I have been testing it with a group of my clients, and am getting very positive feedback. It uses some powerful hypnosis techniques to imitate the way in which the mind and body bring about the onset of sleep. In fact, the producer in the recording studio said that he was struggling to stay awake while we recorded it.

If you want to be kept in the loop for when I release this (which is soon), then let me know as soon as possible by clicking on thisweb link and entering your email address in the fields provided. That way, if you are not interested then I don’t need to bother you anymore.

Here’s the link again http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk/insomnia.html

What are you going to do today?

Following on from my last newsletter “taking stock of your things to do”, this month I want to focus on a pragmatic way to choose what you do on a daily and weekly basis in order to be more in control of things (and reduce your stress levels). If you haven’t yet done so, I recommend going back over the last newsletter and completing the “things to do stock take”. This will give you a good, realistic and solid to do list from which to start.

What you place your attention on gets done. Each new day finds many things competing for your attention so it is important to choose wisely how you will use your time. This means purposefully choosing and prioritising what you do.

To get a sense of what I mean, think about what would happen if there was a “free for all” or “first come first served” policy in a queue for the hospital A&E unit. It would lead to total disarray for both patients and staff, and even unnecessary death. It would be the people in the queue who pushed, shoved and shouted the loudest that got served first – and probably not the right people. Instead, the hospitals use a triage system which is based on a few key criteria (like who is closest to death) to decide who gets helped first. And although the odd patient might be left waiting for hours with a painful sprained ankle, he/she will survive and a few people’s lives may have been saved during that time.

I urge you to apply parts of this approach to your own queue of things to do. Here is a good way to do it. The advantage you have over the hospital A&E department is that you have a better idea of the tasks in your queue and therefore you can do your triage proactively.

These 5 steps will help you choose and prioritise your tasks. Do this comprehensively once a week, then review and adjust daily.

  1. Decide quickly what you will NOT do this week (What’s NOTIMPORTANT and NOT URGENT?) and put them somewhereso that they can’t compete for your attention. This is very liberating.
  2. What items are IMPORTANT and URGENT? Do these FIRST.This will normally help you feel more relaxed because these are generally the pressing actions that are causing your some of your stress.
  3. What items are IMPORTANT and NOT URGENT? Do these NEXT and spread them over the coming week. According to Steven Covey (author of the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People) IMPORTANT and NOT URGENT actions are the most important actions on your to do list and he suggests that this is where you spend most of your time. These are typically the ones that you tend to just keep putting off until it is too late and then cause unnecessary stress again. The more time you focus here in the medium to long term, the less stressful actions you will end up with. Having adopted this approach for a long time myself, I can attest that it works
  4. ALWAYS assign slots of time for each task upfrontthis helps to form a simple weekly & daily plan – Remember to leave sufficient space for surprise UGRENT unplanned tasks (you will generally always have something that crops up out of nowhere) – but remember to prioritise in the same way before just blindly doing it. Remember the quote from the last newsletter ”every time you say yes to something/someone, you say no to everything/everyone else” [Owen Fitzpatrick]
  5. Before starting each task, think about good feeling you will have once you have completed itThis helps create motivation for the tasks (especially mundane ones!). A common reason for not doing something is that you dwell on the need for starting or doing the task rather than what the outcome achieves for you, and this puts you off.

My advice to you is to choose to make a habit of this behaviour and notice how much more in control you feel!

Finally, just to let you know, I have also noticed an increase in the number of people contacting me for driving test nerves and post natal depression issues.

If you know anybody who is suffering with either of these, please direct them to the following pages where they can find out some useful information.

For driving test nerves,

Tell them to go to http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk/driving-test-nerves.htmlor even http://www.drive-test-nerves-away.com . I have been getting some good feedback on this product, and have even sold it to some driving instructors in other parts of England. The product is cheap and designed to appeal to people’s common sense. Here are examples of the feedback…

“i was very nervous about my driving test and hoped it would calm me down for the build up . i passed my test because i was so much calmer and relaxed after using the cd a week before and even the morning before my test .. it was excellent”

“It me think about my driving difficulties in a new conscious way, followed by hypnosis”

“My daughter used it and she found it very useful”

“It made me look at the driving test in a way I never had before….. it was really common sense, but before using your product, I never thought to think of it in that way. up till then I had always found myself thinking about failing the test and it never dawned on me to imagine what would happen if I passed the test… i would definitely recommend this to other people”

For Post Natal Depression

Tell them to go to http://www.nickmeredith.com/post-natal-depression.html . I have spent a lot of time creating a web page with useful information about post natal depression and tips on how to deal with it. I want to get the message to women that “it doesn’t have to be this way forever” and “its not your fault” and “you can do something about it”.

Until next time

Nick

PS. You might find these web sites useful;

http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk [My general website for therapy and coaching]

http://www.hypnobirthing-peterborough.co.uk [a powerful ante natal programme for teaching mothers to experience comfortable birth without fear]

http://www.drive-test-nerves-away.co.uk [a cheap hypnosis programme to help remove driving test nerves]

http://www.experience-your-birthright.co.uk [a cheap hypnosis programme to help mothers build the right state of mind to have the most comfortable birth]