Posts Tagged ‘fight or flight’

Take a breather…..

Thursday, July 23rd, 2009

Its been a couple of months since my last blog/newsletter, if you have followed my recent set of  newsletters, you will be aware that I have been focussing each month on a useful technique for helping you respond better to something/someone that causes you to become stressed.

For a recap of these, you can go to http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk/blog (or if you are already here, simply see articles lower down the page)

Now, of course, I am not saying that every technique will work for everyone every time, but I do urge you to try each one out and see whether it does work for you in different situations.

This month, I am going to focus on a technique that that is very easy, very effective and costs nothing (until somebody finds a way of installing an oxygen meter between our mouth, nose and lungs, that is!) – You’ve guessed it, its called breathing properly.

Any clients that have been to see me for help with stress, anxiety, drepression, panic, phobias etc. will know that I almost always teach a powerful technique called “7-11 breathing”, which is very effective at “in the moment” management of stress. More about that later….

If you want to skip the facts, and move straight to the “how to do it”  bit, then click here, otherwise, sit back, slow down your breathing and read on.

Firstly, here are some interesting “facts” about breathing (based on some quick web research)

  • The average person only uses around 20% of their lung capacity
  • Breathing correctly is critical for maintaining the level of oxygen (O2) for energy, keeping the correct levels of Acid/Alkaline in the body, and enough Carbon Dioxide (CO2) for bodily functions
  • Healthy people make 93% of their energy aerobically (in presence of O2) but poor breathing can reduce this to 84%
  • 70% of body waste is elimited through breathing
  • A well known clinical study (Framlingham) over 30 years, provided convincing evidence that the most significant factor in peak health and longevity is how well you breathe

referencehttp://breathing.com/articles/clinical-studies.htm#Clinical%20studies%20i

What is “bad” breathing?

Typically this is when you are delivering less air per breath (than normal) into the lungs, especially through shallow (chest) breathing. It seems common sense then that less air per breath requires more breaths per minute to take in the required amount. This in turn causes a cascade of physiological changes that include

  • constricted blood vessels (by not breathing in properly)
  • an imbalance of CO2 and O2 in the blood. CO2 is a vital byproduct of our metabolism and is important in helping to maintain the balance between acid and alkaline in the body
  • an adverse effect on the body’s ability to eliminate toxins (by not breathing out properly)

What happens if there is an imbalance of CO2 and O2?

Too much CO2  and not enough O2 can amongst other things create low feelings feelings and fatigue.

Too much O2 and not enough CO2 can lead to an agitated state, however a restricted supply of oxygen can also contribute to panic attacks, anxiety and sometimes phobic responses.

Conversely, stress, anxiety and emotions can also adversely affect your breathing – your natural fight or flight response increases respiration which is more likely to result in faster chest breathing (as above) and once breathing has led you  into an aroused state, the physiological effects on the body remain until the stressor has gone.

Bad breathing is more likely to be conducted through the mouth (rather than the nose) which means that you could exhale large volumes of air quickly, leading to symptoms of hyper ventilation.

As a demonstration of some of the above points (strictly only for those of you who don’t have problems with panic attacks), just spend 10-20 seconds breathing in really quickly and shallower than you normally would – notice what happens! When I do this, within seconds I feel an immediate rush of adrenaline into my legs  and my hands start to sweat (as my brain starts to activate the fight or flight response).

Telling somebody who is feeling anxious, to breathe in deeply could make them feel worse. A person feeling anxious will already probably have exceeded their optimal CO2 levels, and deep breathing may cause them to breathe faster or hyperventilate (as the body speeds the breathing up to redress to CO2 and O2 balance) . It is more helpful to get them to breathe slowly. (see 7-11 breathing later)

What is “good” breathing?

Think about the opposite of bad breathing and you have pretty much got it. We all know how to breathe, and we all do it automatically (unconsciously) without even thinking about it (apparently over 17000 times per day!). With good breathing, you are aiming to redress and keep the O2 and CO2 levels at an optimum balance. In the beginning, you will need to consciously focus on your breathing to help change the habit.

The key point is to breathe as SLOWLY as possible, with the out breath longer than the in breath using the the diaphragm rather than the chest. Ultimately you want to get from an average of 12 breaths per minute to just 4 breaths per minute.

To help with this, there is a useful technique called 7-11 breathing, and this aims to achieve the above. It goes like this,

  • breathe in for a count of 7, hold for a short while
  • then breathe out for a count of 11
  • It can help to imagine that you have got a balloon (choose a calming colour for it) under your diaphragm and you are using the breathing to fill it and exhale it (count for 7 and out for 11 )

Make sure that when you are breathing in, you are doing deep ‘diaphragmatic breathing’ (your diaphragm moves down and pushes your stomach out as you take in a breath) rather than shallower higher lung breathing. If you find that it’s difficult to lengthen your breaths to a count of 7 or 11, then reduce the count to breathing in for 3 and out to 5, or whatever suits you best, as long as the out-breath is longer than the in-breath. Continue in this way for 5-10 minutes or longer if you have time – and enjoy the calming effect it will have on your mind and body. I would also suggest using your nose unless you find it too uncomfortable.

There is also another way to remember it, called 4-7-8 breathing (breathe in for a count of 4, hold for a count of 7, out for a count of 8)

The technique is effective because out-breaths stimulate what is called the Parasympathetic Nervous System, a natural bodily response that enables you to ‘rest and digest’ as opposed to ‘fight or flight’ (the Sympathetic Nervous System). Slow out-breaths decrease your blood pressure, dilate your pupils and slows your heart rate – lowering emotional arousal in the process.

reference:  Human Givens: A New Approach to Emotional Health and Clear Thinking (Paperback) , by Joe Griffin and Ivan Tyrrell

Don’t give up

Now, its almost certain that when you first try this, it will seem both unnatural and uncomfortable. That is because you will have years of practice of shallow, chest breathing. Lots of us (particularly blokes) are used to sucking our stomachs in to hide our middle age spread (obviously not me), and this means that we have unwittingly forced ourselves into chest breathing.

Finally, you will probably have to remind yourself to breathe in this way quite often in the beginning (before it becomes a habit). You will no doubt be aware of those times if you sit in front of a computer and TV for hours on end, deep in concentration, that you may have even even stopped breathing altogether at certain points! – it is therefore useful to have a reminder in your line of site telling you to “breathe properly”. Over time, like any habit, good breathing will become a natural function for you which you don’t even have to think about.

I have many emails and testimonials from clients telling me how useful 7-11 breathing has been for them with issues such as depression, anxiety, managing a panic attack, managing a phobic response or a fear of something, meeting nerves, exam nerves, driving test nerves, stress, calming down, public speaking, fear of flying, relaxing, dealing with anger, reducing fear in birth and labour and many more. So what are you waiting for, close this web page, start breathing properly and notice immediate and permanent benefits!!

Think about it, why is breathing so integral to most preparation/training routines for athletes, musicians, vocalists, public speakers and actors, and why it is so integral to practices like yoga, meditation and martial arts.

Tip 2: Take stock of your “things to do”

Wednesday, December 10th, 2008

The current set of blogs is dealing with stress management during the credit crunch.

Last time I covered what stress really is, i.e. your individual response to something that you perceive is happening in your environment. You make this perception through things that you are exposed to (see or hear or feel) or even things that you play out in your mind which are unlikely to happen in reality. When eventually the perception of “too much is happening for me to cope with” is reached, then the fight or flight response is activated and this is when you start to notice unpleasant physiological symptoms such as feeling on edge, churning stomach, negative thoughts and the inability to concentrate, and in some cases illness (eg. frequent colds and flu) as the immune system is compromised.
Start by taking response-ability for stress

Once you accept that stress is your response to things rather than something that happens to you from the outside, you can begin to have “response–ability” and then can learn the ability to respond appropriately.
Learn to relax and take some daily time out to do it

I started last time by talking about the most important way to start to change your response, i.e. taking the time out and learning to relax. There are many ways to do this and many benefits to be achieved from doing it (other than noticing how it reduces stress). To find out more of the detail, please refer to my previous newsletter (Tip 1: Taking time out to relax) at www.mindsigh.wordpress.com. My website provides some additional ideas about learning to relax at http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk/page_1210623551920.html. This newsletter focuses on the ability to cut down your inputs (or perceived inputs), giving you a quick and handy overview of where things really are at.

Tip 2: Cut down the number of “things to do” in your life

One of the thinking styles often associated with stress is to perceive things as being worse than they are and in this case I am talking specifically about the number of things you think you have got going on in your life. It is very important to objectively sit down and take a reality check to see just how true this perception is. I can’t tell you how important it is to do this, in most cases; my clients find themselves feeling a lot better once they have completed the exercise (explained next)

The “things to do” stock take!

How many things have you got outstanding on your “to do list” at the moment? Do you even have a “to do list”? Either way, write down all the things you have got to get done, remember to include all aspects of your life, not just work! and then do the following exercise. To help you, I have created a worksheet that you can use as a guide/template for doing this, you can download it here: -

For each entry on the sheet provided, put down your “thing to do” and then answer the rest of the appropriate blocks in the worksheet HONESTLY. Get everything down to start with, no matter howbig or small it might seeem to you (include home, work, hobbies, finances, community, spiritual, health etc)Having completed this exercise and worksheet, you should have noticed one or more of the following things:-
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  • When you get it all down on paper, you have go a clear idea of what is really going on in your life

    [Normally you find that perception isn't reality and that reality is not as bad as you first thought. From here you can start to take response-ability for what really needs to be done]

  • There will be things on the list that you should scrap immediately or give to somebody else

    [Be merciless here! if you haven't done them and 1 month has passed, how likely are you to do them in the future? they will just stay on the list and continue make you feel bad for not doing them. If they are just not important or urgent, then scrap them as well, otherwise you may end up doing them instead of something that is important – a common avoidance strategy!!]

  • You will notice that a percentage of your tasks are for other people (and are based on their own criteria of urgency and importance)

    [With these tasks it is very important to consider this: every time you say Yes to someone, you are saying No to everything else. (Owen Fitzpatrick). For each task, go back to the person, and assess whether they are still important/urgent or even relevant to him/her. Quite often you find that the task no longer applies because things have changed. If you have multiple tasks from the same person, then ask them to prioritise between their own tasks or accept that one will be impacted by another. You may be surprised that these people will be sympathetic to your situation. This topic is covered in more detail in a future newsletter]

  • There will be things on the list that you must do immediately because they are important and urgent and will make your life better (in your honest opinion!)

    [If they are both important and urgent for you, or you have checked with the "other person" that this is still the case; and that they are aware of the consequences of doing this task instead of something else, then do immediately (or as soon as possible). These tasks are the ones that will make the quickest and biggest difference to your situation and will help you feel better about things]

When you have got a clear picture, scrapped or handed over as many unimportant/non-urgent tasks and completed the important/urgent ones, then you will need to start to prioritise properly and regularly in order to stay in control of things again – this will be covered next time. In the mean time, please, please complete the above exercise and notice how therapeutic it is for you. It helps to do this exercise every few months as a way of keeping things relevant to what is happening in your life.

This, combined with the relaxation techniques from the last blog will already start to make a difference in your life. Sign

In the next blog I will address Tip 3: Improve the way in which you choose what to do each day/week/month through prioritisation and delegation.

Avoiding unnecessary stress during the credit crunch

Wednesday, December 10th, 2008

Tips for surviving the “stresses” of the “credit crunch” or anything else

Now we all know how very much the media love to hype things up, mixing in as much doom and gloom to the picture as possible! It’s amazing, I have even noticed the voice and demeanour of the newsreader assumes a depressing manner while reading the news out. It is very important during these times to ensure that you do not allowing yourself to be worn down by the endless assault of negative messages hitting you from every angle!

Recently I have noticed an increase in the number of enquiries coming in to me asking for help with coping with stress or anxiety. Quite often it is because people have succumbed to the above. When I actually dig into their specific circumstances, they find that things are actually okay, realising that they have been infected by the endless negative press around them. Read on to find out why this happens and how you can prevent it.

What is stress?

· Stress is a person’s response to a situation, a person, an object or a thought, it is not a disease, or genetic, it is a response to what is happening around you

· It can also be thought of as a mind/body state that arises when the demands placed on the individual are perceived to exceed (or threaten to exceed) your ability to cope. This can result in a range of issues including headaches, migraines, insomnia, depression, drug and alcohol abuse and skin complaints. Long term stress can lead to increased risk of major illnesses, bowel disorders like irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) and anxiety disorders.

· Stress is a result of the fight or flight response (click to read more about it) being triggered and this can be for several reasons, including

    1. You are not taking time out to relax regularly, and so your mind/body is not working at its best to be able to cope normally
    2. You have too much going on around you (too many inputs) and you need to prioritise or find ways to reduce the perceived workload (covered in a future newsletter)
    3. You are allowing your thoughts to get the better of you and they spiral into unnecessary worrying about stuff that may not happen – I call this the “What if?” syndrome, or “misusing your imagination”.(covered in a future newsletter)
    4. You are trying to fight the anxiety instead of accepting it and then working with it to shut down the fight or flight response (covered in a future newsletter)

· All of these things can be perceived by your mind as a “threat” to your well being, hence the fight or flight response gets triggered. It is important to realise that stress is a triggering of the fight or flight response because it firstly allows you to recognise the symptoms and secondly to realise that you can reverse them.

Over the coming set of newsletters, I will talk through simple ways of managing each one of the 4 points above. I have addressed them in an order that I think will be most effective

Tip 1 -Taking time out to relax

Take regular breaks

· It sounds obvious, but I am surprised at how few people take any breaks in the day or evening, and then wonder why their mind/body feels overloaded. Animals rest, even machinery needs to rest, why do we think we are any different?

· In fact we are designed to take short breaks every ninety minutes to be most effective – read this important information about ultradian rhythms to find out more

· Contrary to what you think, when you make the time to take breaks and relax, you can get more done in the remaining time. The best way to believe me is to try it for yourself.

Incorporate daily relaxation time into your schedule

There are many ways to relax properly, some discussed on my website. Having a daily practice of 20 minutes relaxation, contributes to

· Feeling more calm about things that would normally get you wound up (reducing the onset of stress)

· Thinking more clearly and getting more things done, quicker (reducing your inputs and the likelihood of stress)

· Release of endorphines. Relaxing in this way releases endorphins, the body’s natural feel good hormones, which make you feel more positive about yourself and the environment (reducing the unnecessary worrying). This process also promotes healing as the immune system is bolstered.

· Increases creativity and breaks down black and white thinking, allowing you to find new perspectives on issues and discover new ways to do things (reducing the unnecessary worrying)

· Improves sleep because you go to bed with fewer worries on your mind. Having a good night’s sleep allows you to be better able to cope with things in general(reducing the onset of stress)

To help you with this , download “Release the day…enjoy the rest…” available to you to help you relax, feel calmer, release worries from the day and experience the benefits of doing this regularly. (it only takes 25 minutes to listen to). You can access it on my website products page – At the moment, if you sign up to my newsletter on that page, you can download it free.

Here is the link again – http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk/page_1216986644916.html

In the next issue I will address Tip 2: Ways to reduce your perceived number of inputs with some useful methods for prioritising and delegating.