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Are you getting enough sleep in the Credit Crunch?

Friday, January 30th, 2009

Welcome to my January 2009 newsletter! I’ll jump straight in today…

IMPORTANT: Do you want to get more sleep? Do want to fall asleep and stay asleep?

If you are too tired to read on, but curious about how I can help then just click here.

In the last 3 months, the number of people clicking on my “insomnia” and “sleep” web pages has gone through the roof. For me, this comes as no surprise considering what is happening in the economy plus taking into account the current theme of my newsletters i.e. “surviving stress in the credit crunch”. Now here’s the thing, it is well known that when stress and anxiety is more prevalent in your daily life, your sleep patterns can be greatly disturbed. Sleep is one of your basic needs as a human being. Without adequate sleep, you can soon descend into walking zombies with increased grumpiness, anxiety, inability to cope with daily routine and in extreme cases … depression. The opposite also applies, not enough sleep might be the biggest contributor to being stressed.

I am currently in the process of finalising my next hypnosis product, which is specifically designed to help you fall asleep and stay asleep. I have been testing it with a group of my clients, and am getting very positive feedback. It uses some powerful hypnosis techniques to imitate the way in which the mind and body bring about the onset of sleep. In fact, the producer in the recording studio said that he was struggling to stay awake while we recorded it.

If you want to be kept in the loop for when I release this (which is soon), then let me know as soon as possible by clicking on thisweb link and entering your email address in the fields provided. That way, if you are not interested then I don’t need to bother you anymore.

Here’s the link again http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk/insomnia.html

What are you going to do today?

Following on from my last newsletter “taking stock of your things to do”, this month I want to focus on a pragmatic way to choose what you do on a daily and weekly basis in order to be more in control of things (and reduce your stress levels). If you haven’t yet done so, I recommend going back over the last newsletter and completing the “things to do stock take”. This will give you a good, realistic and solid to do list from which to start.

What you place your attention on gets done. Each new day finds many things competing for your attention so it is important to choose wisely how you will use your time. This means purposefully choosing and prioritising what you do.

To get a sense of what I mean, think about what would happen if there was a “free for all” or “first come first served” policy in a queue for the hospital A&E unit. It would lead to total disarray for both patients and staff, and even unnecessary death. It would be the people in the queue who pushed, shoved and shouted the loudest that got served first – and probably not the right people. Instead, the hospitals use a triage system which is based on a few key criteria (like who is closest to death) to decide who gets helped first. And although the odd patient might be left waiting for hours with a painful sprained ankle, he/she will survive and a few people’s lives may have been saved during that time.

I urge you to apply parts of this approach to your own queue of things to do. Here is a good way to do it. The advantage you have over the hospital A&E department is that you have a better idea of the tasks in your queue and therefore you can do your triage proactively.

These 5 steps will help you choose and prioritise your tasks. Do this comprehensively once a week, then review and adjust daily.

  1. Decide quickly what you will NOT do this week (What’s NOTIMPORTANT and NOT URGENT?) and put them somewhereso that they can’t compete for your attention. This is very liberating.
  2. What items are IMPORTANT and URGENT? Do these FIRST.This will normally help you feel more relaxed because these are generally the pressing actions that are causing your some of your stress.
  3. What items are IMPORTANT and NOT URGENT? Do these NEXT and spread them over the coming week. According to Steven Covey (author of the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People) IMPORTANT and NOT URGENT actions are the most important actions on your to do list and he suggests that this is where you spend most of your time. These are typically the ones that you tend to just keep putting off until it is too late and then cause unnecessary stress again. The more time you focus here in the medium to long term, the less stressful actions you will end up with. Having adopted this approach for a long time myself, I can attest that it works
  4. ALWAYS assign slots of time for each task upfront – this helps to form a simple weekly & daily plan – Remember to leave sufficient space for surprise UGRENT unplanned tasks (you will generally always have something that crops up out of nowhere) – but remember to prioritise in the same way before just blindly doing it. Remember the quote from the last newsletter ”every time you say yes to something/someone, you say no to everything/everyone else” [Owen Fitzpatrick]
  5. Before starting each task, think about good feeling you will have once you have completed it. This helps create motivation for the tasks (especially mundane ones!). A common reason for not doing something is that you dwell on the need for starting or doing the task rather than what the outcome achieves for you, and this puts you off.

My advice to you is to choose to make a habit of this behaviour and notice how much more in control you feel!

Finally, just to let you know, I have also noticed an increase in the number of people contacting me for driving test nerves and post natal depression issues.

If you know anybody who is suffering with either of these, please direct them to the following pages where they can find out some useful information.

For driving test nerves,

Tell them to go to http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk/driving-test-nerves.htmlor even http://www.drive-test-nerves-away.com . I have been getting some good feedback on this product, and have even sold it to some driving instructors in other parts of England. The product is cheap and designed to appeal to people’s common sense. Here are examples of the feedback…

“i was very nervous about my driving test and hoped it would calm me down for the build up . i passed my test because i was so much calmer and relaxed after using the cd a week before and even the morning before my test .. it was excellent”

“It me think about my driving difficulties in a new conscious way, followed by hypnosis”

“My daughter used it and she found it very useful”

“It made me look at the driving test in a way I never had before….. it was really common sense, but before using your product, I never thought to think of it in that way. up till then I had always found myself thinking about failing the test and it never dawned on me to imagine what would happen if I passed the test… i would definitely recommend this to other people”

For Post Natal Depression

Tell them to go to http://www.nickmeredith.com/post-natal-depression.html . I have spent a lot of time creating a web page with useful information about post natal depression and tips on how to deal with it. I want to get the message to women that “it doesn’t have to be this way forever” and “its not your fault” and “you can do something about it”.

Until next time

Nick

PS. You might find these web sites useful;

http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk [My general website for therapy and coaching]

http://www.hypnobirthing-peterborough.co.uk [a powerful ante natal programme for teaching mothers to experience comfortable birth without fear]

http://www.drive-test-nerves-away.co.uk [a cheap hypnosis programme to help remove driving test nerves]

http://www.experience-your-birthright.co.uk [a cheap hypnosis programme to help mothers build the right state of mind to have the most comfortable birth]

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Tip 2: Take stock of your “things to do”

Wednesday, December 10th, 2008

The current set of blogs is dealing with stress management during the credit crunch.

Last time I covered what stress really is, i.e. your individual response to something that you perceive is happening in your environment. You make this perception through things that you are exposed to (see or hear or feel) or even things that you play out in your mind which are unlikely to happen in reality. When eventually the perception of “too much is happening for me to cope with” is reached, then the fight or flight response is activated and this is when you start to notice unpleasant physiological symptoms such as feeling on edge, churning stomach, negative thoughts and the inability to concentrate, and in some cases illness (eg. frequent colds and flu) as the immune system is compromised.
Start by taking response-ability for stress

Once you accept that stress is your response to things rather than something that happens to you from the outside, you can begin to have “response–ability” and then can learn the ability to respond appropriately.
Learn to relax and take some daily time out to do it

I started last time by talking about the most important way to start to change your response, i.e. taking the time out and learning to relax. There are many ways to do this and many benefits to be achieved from doing it (other than noticing how it reduces stress). To find out more of the detail, please refer to my previous newsletter (Tip 1: Taking time out to relax) at www.mindsigh.wordpress.com. My website provides some additional ideas about learning to relax at http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk/page_1210623551920.html. This newsletter focuses on the ability to cut down your inputs (or perceived inputs), giving you a quick and handy overview of where things really are at.

Tip 2: Cut down the number of “things to do” in your life

One of the thinking styles often associated with stress is to perceive things as being worse than they are and in this case I am talking specifically about the number of things you think you have got going on in your life. It is very important to objectively sit down and take a reality check to see just how true this perception is. I can’t tell you how important it is to do this, in most cases; my clients find themselves feeling a lot better once they have completed the exercise (explained next)

The “things to do” stock take!

How many things have you got outstanding on your “to do list” at the moment? Do you even have a “to do list”? Either way, write down all the things you have got to get done, remember to include all aspects of your life, not just work! and then do the following exercise. To help you, I have created a worksheet that you can use as a guide/template for doing this, you can download it here: -

For each entry on the sheet provided, put down your “thing to do” and then answer the rest of the appropriate blocks in the worksheet HONESTLY. Get everything down to start with, no matter howbig or small it might seeem to you (include home, work, hobbies, finances, community, spiritual, health etc)Having completed this exercise and worksheet, you should have noticed one or more of the following things:-
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  • When you get it all down on paper, you have go a clear idea of what is really going on in your life

    [Normally you find that perception isn't reality and that reality is not as bad as you first thought. From here you can start to take response-ability for what really needs to be done]

  • There will be things on the list that you should scrap immediately or give to somebody else

    [Be merciless here! if you haven't done them and 1 month has passed, how likely are you to do them in the future? they will just stay on the list and continue make you feel bad for not doing them. If they are just not important or urgent, then scrap them as well, otherwise you may end up doing them instead of something that is important – a common avoidance strategy!!]

  • You will notice that a percentage of your tasks are for other people (and are based on their own criteria of urgency and importance)

    [With these tasks it is very important to consider this: every time you say Yes to someone, you are saying No to everything else. (Owen Fitzpatrick). For each task, go back to the person, and assess whether they are still important/urgent or even relevant to him/her. Quite often you find that the task no longer applies because things have changed. If you have multiple tasks from the same person, then ask them to prioritise between their own tasks or accept that one will be impacted by another. You may be surprised that these people will be sympathetic to your situation. This topic is covered in more detail in a future newsletter]

  • There will be things on the list that you must do immediately because they are important and urgent and will make your life better (in your honest opinion!)

    [If they are both important and urgent for you, or you have checked with the "other person" that this is still the case; and that they are aware of the consequences of doing this task instead of something else, then do immediately (or as soon as possible). These tasks are the ones that will make the quickest and biggest difference to your situation and will help you feel better about things]

When you have got a clear picture, scrapped or handed over as many unimportant/non-urgent tasks and completed the important/urgent ones, then you will need to start to prioritise properly and regularly in order to stay in control of things again – this will be covered next time. In the mean time, please, please complete the above exercise and notice how therapeutic it is for you. It helps to do this exercise every few months as a way of keeping things relevant to what is happening in your life.

This, combined with the relaxation techniques from the last blog will already start to make a difference in your life. Sign

In the next blog I will address Tip 3: Improve the way in which you choose what to do each day/week/month through prioritisation and delegation.

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Avoiding unnecessary stress during the credit crunch

Wednesday, December 10th, 2008

Tips for surviving the “stresses” of the “credit crunch” or anything else

Now we all know how very much the media love to hype things up, mixing in as much doom and gloom to the picture as possible! It’s amazing, I have even noticed the voice and demeanour of the newsreader assumes a depressing manner while reading the news out. It is very important during these times to ensure that you do not allowing yourself to be worn down by the endless assault of negative messages hitting you from every angle!

Recently I have noticed an increase in the number of enquiries coming in to me asking for help with coping with stress or anxiety. Quite often it is because people have succumbed to the above. When I actually dig into their specific circumstances, they find that things are actually okay, realising that they have been infected by the endless negative press around them. Read on to find out why this happens and how you can prevent it.

What is stress?

· Stress is a person’s response to a situation, a person, an object or a thought, it is not a disease, or genetic, it is a response to what is happening around you

· It can also be thought of as a mind/body state that arises when the demands placed on the individual are perceived to exceed (or threaten to exceed) your ability to cope. This can result in a range of issues including headaches, migraines, insomnia, depression, drug and alcohol abuse and skin complaints. Long term stress can lead to increased risk of major illnesses, bowel disorders like irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) and anxiety disorders.

· Stress is a result of the fight or flight response (click to read more about it) being triggered and this can be for several reasons, including

    1. You are not taking time out to relax regularly, and so your mind/body is not working at its best to be able to cope normally
    2. You have too much going on around you (too many inputs) and you need to prioritise or find ways to reduce the perceived workload (covered in a future newsletter)
    3. You are allowing your thoughts to get the better of you and they spiral into unnecessary worrying about stuff that may not happen – I call this the “What if?” syndrome, or “misusing your imagination”.(covered in a future newsletter)
    4. You are trying to fight the anxiety instead of accepting it and then working with it to shut down the fight or flight response (covered in a future newsletter)

· All of these things can be perceived by your mind as a “threat” to your well being, hence the fight or flight response gets triggered. It is important to realise that stress is a triggering of the fight or flight response because it firstly allows you to recognise the symptoms and secondly to realise that you can reverse them.

Over the coming set of newsletters, I will talk through simple ways of managing each one of the 4 points above. I have addressed them in an order that I think will be most effective

Tip 1 -Taking time out to relax

Take regular breaks

· It sounds obvious, but I am surprised at how few people take any breaks in the day or evening, and then wonder why their mind/body feels overloaded. Animals rest, even machinery needs to rest, why do we think we are any different?

· In fact we are designed to take short breaks every ninety minutes to be most effective – read this important information about ultradian rhythms to find out more

· Contrary to what you think, when you make the time to take breaks and relax, you can get more done in the remaining time. The best way to believe me is to try it for yourself.

Incorporate daily relaxation time into your schedule

There are many ways to relax properly, some discussed on my website. Having a daily practice of 20 minutes relaxation, contributes to

· Feeling more calm about things that would normally get you wound up (reducing the onset of stress)

· Thinking more clearly and getting more things done, quicker (reducing your inputs and the likelihood of stress)

· Release of endorphines. Relaxing in this way releases endorphins, the body’s natural feel good hormones, which make you feel more positive about yourself and the environment (reducing the unnecessary worrying). This process also promotes healing as the immune system is bolstered.

· Increases creativity and breaks down black and white thinking, allowing you to find new perspectives on issues and discover new ways to do things (reducing the unnecessary worrying)

· Improves sleep because you go to bed with fewer worries on your mind. Having a good night’s sleep allows you to be better able to cope with things in general(reducing the onset of stress)

To help you with this , download “Release the day…enjoy the rest…” available to you to help you relax, feel calmer, release worries from the day and experience the benefits of doing this regularly. (it only takes 25 minutes to listen to). You can access it on my website products page – At the moment, if you sign up to my newsletter on that page, you can download it free.

Here is the link again – http://www.nickmeredith.co.uk/page_1216986644916.html

In the next issue I will address Tip 2: Ways to reduce your perceived number of inputs with some useful methods for prioritising and delegating.

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